Questions of Time
I dated a guy in college and we reconnected ten years ago, both of us in relationships. We built a nice friendship over the years and now both of us are single. We’ve hung out a few times recently and there was definitely a spark, but I’m afraid to pursue it because I don’t want to screw up the friendship. It’s always a risk when converting a friendship to a “love-ship”, but it doesn’t necessarily have to end in tragedy. Continue spending time with him and let nature take


I Do, I Don't, I Might
My partner’s brother is getting married and considering how his family isn’t friendly towards me nor are they accepting of our relationship, I wasn’t surprised to be excluded from the invitation. Sure, it sucks for me, but it really sucks for my partner. He refuses to go to the wedding if I’m not welcome. Is that the right choice? It might be the right choice for him- it’s his call to make. I see where you don’t want to be the reason for fallout between your partner and h


Collateral Damages
I’m a year into single life after my breakup and I just started dating again a couple months ago. On the dates I’ve been on I’ve noticed that they always bring up their Ex in the conversation, leading to them questioning my breakup and telling me all about theirs. Why do people always bring up their Ex on first dates? Unless they’re on probation for attacking or stalking their Ex, you really don’t need to know anything about the past relationship of your date this early in


Shirting, the Issue
I’ve been dating a guy for six months and at the beginning of our relationship he always looked great when we’d go out. Lately I’ve noticed his sense of style is going downhill fast. Instead of always looking crisp and put together, he’s now sporting dirty jeans and T-shirts whenever we go out. How should I handle this? Have you tried pointing out that he looks really, really casual for a dinner date? If he says that he wanted to be “comfortable”, remind him that he can s


Congregation Trepidation
I’m trying to take your advice and meet new potential dates in real time situations. My problem is that when I’m in a bar or at a party and I see someone I think is cute and available I’m too afraid to make the first move. How do I overcome this? How? You just do it. Here’s why… When you go into a real time social situation, you’re alone and without any prospects. By not making the first move, you’ve increased the odds that when you leave the social situation you will do

