Three's Company?

My mother-in law has an opinion on everything and isn’t afraid to voice it. The problem is that her influence over my husband is becoming intolerable- so much so that I feel I’m in a relationship with her instead of her son. Lately he can’t make a decision without her approval and it’s driving me crazy.

Parents and close friends are great sounding boards for sharing ideas and getting opinions but when their beliefs become an edict it’s definitely crossing a line. Sounds like it’s time for a serious conversation with your husband; a conversation that covers the proper place of parental opinion, the necessity of boundaries and the importance of a partnership having the final say.

My partner wants to bring in a third… just for fun and nothing more. I’ve never had the desire to have a three-way and I’m definitely not interested in a poly relationship. I really don’t want to do it but I don’t want to disappoint him.

I don’t see how you can agree to participate if it’s not going to turn you on, so going through with it against your inner will is a really bad idea. Honesty is always the best policy, so be candid and demand the same from him. Ask why it’s important to him and together find an alternative agreeable to you both.

I’m dating two guys who know nothing about each other. I like them both and I know I have to choose… but how?

If you have to ask how then chances are you’re not ready choose. The answer to your question isn’t as simple as throwing them both in a river and see who doesn’t drown. The answer is found with who’s first in your heart… the one you wake up thinking about and the one you think of first when you want to share something funny. You’ll get there, and when you do you’ll know.